My purpose in life? July 9th, 2008
Sorry long post…
Have you ever wondered what your purpose is in life?
Iv found myself thinking about it alot lately!
I currently work in a coffee shop and sometimes by just saying hello to someone you end up getting thier life story! Just recently I have had customers who have told me how they have never been abroad or have spent thier whole life being a house wife or they have never had a job and lived off the social. I see people from all walks of life on a daily basis! For example I actually had a homeless person in yesterday, he really smelt and had rips in all his clothes and the next person to walk in the door for a coffee was one of my mums friends who has never worked before and is a millionaire!
It does make you wonder what life has in store for you! Why are some people happy to go out to work, go home, cook tea and spend a couple of hours whatching telly with the children before going to bed so that you can get up in the morning to do it all over again? I don’t think I could do that!
You could say I’m a bit of a dreamer! I want to do so much! I don’t want to look back on my life and say I wish I had done that! I already feel like I missed out on a life experience by not going to uni.
So anyway back to my question. What is my purpose in life? I really don’t know how to answer this!
My husband always says that I worry about what other people think of me too much but I can’t help it, I feel as if people are judging me all the time as if I’m not good enough and I think this is because I feel that I’m not using all of my abilities to the full.
I guess I feel like I’m not contributing enough in most areas of my life! the thing is though I’m not sure what I should be doing?
I thought I wanted to be a midwife and I still do want to be but then the next thing I want to do is work in hospitality or even be a primary school teacher and that’s just my job ideas! As for children houses and traveling I’m even more confussed!
I’m natrally a caring person and I love children I also what to travel but at the same time settle down with my hubby and have lots of babies 
I want to do any job apart from the one I’m doing now! I want to meet new people and experience new things but at the same time spend time with my family!
Any ideas what my purpose in life is? I don’t have a clue where I’m going all I know is that Iv come to the end of my current road and there are too many directions I could go in but I can’t decide which one!
Mike July 9th, 2008 at 7:33 pm
Hey there,
I am the husband of a beautiful 26yo girl who sometimes feels exactly the same. I can almost hear her voice while reading your post. We talk about the purpose in life for ourselves and start daydreaming and wondering the inevitable what-ifs. It gives a good reflexion time on what we’re doing curently and what we want to do next. Good conversations, lots of laughs. At the same time, I can’t help but feel guilty somehow of how she is not living the dreams she had before we met and got married. Dreams that are as big and beautiful as her smile and that I feel I got in the middle of, sort of like an intruder.
I would ask you, as I have asked my wife before a couple times. What are you going to do about it? What would you like your husband to do about it? We need for you to tell us so we don’t continue to screw it, or feel like we do.
steph July 9th, 2008 at 8:09 pm
Thanks Mike, its nice to know I’m not alone! I think its just that I’m at that point in my life where I’m not a child anymore and I have to make some decisions as to where my life is going to go but I don’t want to get stuck into a routine of looking after children and working! I want to try new things, I think I need to go traveling and do some volunteer work. I would love the opportunity to spend some really good quality time with my hubby before we get to stuck in our ways
Mike July 12th, 2008 at 12:27 am
Good luck and wish you guys all the best. Marriage rocks!
Trish July 13th, 2008 at 10:15 pm
Steph – love your husband and tell him how you feel. Talk, talk and talk again and everything will become clear in time. You may not acheive everything you want to do but acheiving some of it will feel good. Best wishes
steph July 14th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
Thanks Trish,
Don’t worry Hubby and I talk all the time about where we are going and what we want to achieve in life. We both are very happy together but feel that the “usual” having children after marriage is not for us just now! We both really want children but we want to do something as a couple first and have a bit of us time before we compleatly settle down. We will work it out one day x